#Adulting With Chinae Alexander
This month, your favorite advice columnist answers all things coronavirus related
Wow how things have changed since Chinae’s last column! This time around, she received tons of questions surrounding the big elephant in the room, coronavirus. Read on for help surrounding relationships, job loss, and whether or not we really need to be productive right now…
I hate to say it, but my boyfriend and I have been fighting more too. And I find myself in a similar position as you, more sensitive than ever. I’ve done some internal work on this and also a ton of reading so here’s what’s been helping me/us.
I hate to be harsh but…WTF “should” we be exactly doing right now? The only job you have at the core of all this is to maintain your health. That doesn’t mean getting a six-pack or finally making that healthy banana bread recipe. When I say health, I mean overall well-being. Mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual all working together. You are not going to be as productive/creative/motivated at this time. Most likely because the world literally feels END OF DAYS-ish.. I think allowing yourself the space to grieve loss of normalcy should be the focus, the rest is surviving. It’s extremely hard to see people online seemingly living their best life inside during this time, and I remind you…that’s what the MUTE button is for! Remember that you’re not seeing the full scope of what people are going though and that you’re not alone. Try to create new rhythms that feel good to you RIGHT NOW, and stop trying to force normalcy into an extremely abnormal time. Do small things that build toward overall wellness. An afternoon nap, a comforting meal, or some gentle yoga…whatever it is, make sure it’s contributing to the benefit of your total health, not just the physical.
I totally understand this as things have generally slowed in my industry too! My best advice is use this unique time to do the type of building that you normally wouldn’t have time for when things are busy and bustling. This is a great time to post more of your work online, revamp your portfolio, and update your site. Another excellent opportunity we have right now is TIME. Time to actually network and reach out to folks just to “meet”. That might mean introducing yourself to some people in adjacent industries that could use you as a resource for future projects. For example, reaching out to video producers that might work alongside graphic designers in their client work, or advertising agency creative directors to hear what type of clients they are working with. People love to talk about themselves, so while you may not be asking them for a job, you are staying top of mind for future work. Lastly and most importantly, don’t expect yourself to navigate this perfectly, and do what you can. We are wading through the murky, scary waters of a pandemic, all figuring it out together.
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